What to know about dating a chinese man

23 Apr

Yes I know I've been doing that already for the most part, but even I admit to being a bit vague andsometimes when I write about it.And yes I know I'm not a relationship expert, a PUA, or even a wingwoman. Indeed men are men, but there's still a fairly large gap in dating when it comes to black women and Asian men.Photo: Fe Ilya The sight of a western girl with a Chinese man is, although admittedly more and more commonplace, still a relative rarity and the information and advice available to Western women who are seeking to date Chinese men is still comparatively rare.

It's still amazing to me how easy it is to find some many blog post, Topix questions, or encounter women in everyday life that are still asking about Asian men and how to meet them, how to date them, etc. #shrugs I'm sure you're also wondering why I'm gearing this mostly at women and not the men as well. I know it's not just black women Googling this stuff and have met Asian men asking some of the same questions as the women.After discovering the tactics for landing dates in Asia, I had romances all across Asia and my dating life was… And from my (very small) pool of dating research at this time, I found that the most satisfactory, fun, and long-lasting dates were with none other than Chinese men. Here are some reasons why my boyfriend is simply amazing; and coincidentally, why Chinese men make really darn good boyfriends. Chinese men tend to either cook with the wife, or just plain take over the kitchen entirely.Now, after many hits and misses in the dating scene, I finally found my perfect match: Richard (and surprise! I know this may vary by region, since northern China is (I hear) more traditional in terms of having the man out in the field while the woman handles the kids and the cookin’.Might Chinese men prefer to find love and romance outside of a marriage?Just really curious about these things and again...I am just trying to gain a general feel for the consensus on these topics these days from Chinese women and men and anyone who has had experience with Chinese in these areas. (oh, it is for my own knowledge--I'm married to a Chinese man who's in China but I'll get into that later)!I'm trying to gage my expectations realistically against what I feel is right :) I am really looking for Chinese mens' views from China -- (rather than Americanized views)...The emasculation of the Asian male is a well documented trope of Western cinema where Asian men are either portrayed as celibate, pure, action heroes, or one dimensional token minorities.The idea of Asian men as sexual beings doesn’t actually exist in the Western public consciousness and this could undoubtedly have an effect on the way Western women view men in China.Boys, Boys, Boys: Dating Chinese Guys Silent Agreement: The Four Unwritten Rules of Courtship in China Foreigner Vs Chinese Tradition: Relationship Roles in a Chinese Family Happy Endings in China Not Just for Men Walk down any street or into any bar and you will see the oh-so familiar sight of foreign men with Chinese girls.Go on any internet forum and you will be able to access myriad conversations and threads extolling the trials and tribulations of dating Chinese girls, but what if we flip it the other way round?