Shy girl and dating speed dating and the rules of attraction

03 Oct

After all, it would be truly impossible to deeply care about anyone you’ve just met, so remember that the stranger in front of you on a date shouldn’t have that much more power over your feelings or mood.

If you make sure to play a part setting up the date so you go to places you love – regardless of how the date goes – you will get better at feeling relaxed and avoid thinking about the possibility of rejection. Sometimes shy men and women can be people pleasers.

Instead I had to rely on my observations and research on what shy women go through.

In a dating situation you may read the signs wrong or not be able to judge if she is actually into you or interested.There are lots of women who have good romantic lives, but who still consider themselves shy around guys at heart, and wish they weren't so inhibited at times.There are women who were pretty shy in high school and during the first year or two of college, and it delayed the start of their dating lives somewhat, but they got worked through the worst of it by their early twenties.Because shy men and women tend to be more introverted and more observational thinkers in the first place, not taking things seriously goes against the grain of the shy personality makeup.But trust me when I say this: As much as a first date seems to matter in the moment, you have to put it all in perspective.The most important thing to remember is that it takes time for a shy person to open up and feel comfortable around someone new.The key to dating a girl who is shy is simply to make her feel comfortable.Some girls are shy because they have had a bad experience in the past, such as getting bullied for being the "know-it-all" in class while others learned from their parents to never talk unless spoken to.Some girls are also more shy around boys, especially if they've never had someone interested in them before.I'm writing this article as a follow up to the one I did on what's going on in the mind of guys who are shy and inexperienced with women. Some said that they were shy with men and several of the points in it applied to their own situation.Others pointed out how shy women have their own struggles as well.