Redating an ex years later

04 Jan

The couple, who have three grown-up sons, first wed in November 1972. When I was 25 and Nicholas proposed, I had no doubts that he was ‘the one’. As the day approached, I became incredibly nervous as it was a very formal ‘society’ wedding held at my parents’ mansion in Wiltshire with 300 guests.

We moved to Northumberland 18 months later so Nicholas could take over the family business after his father died.

In my opinion, once it’s over, it’s over, and I move on with my life. He’s just a lot weaker and needier right now, because of his circumstances.

Yet I have been contacted by a number of ex-boyfriends (three in the past three years alone) telling me how they regret breaking up with me, how still love me and miss me, and how they wish they could have another chance. Listen, I know why it might be tempting to rekindle an old flame with the devil that you know, but I’d strongly lean towards the one you don’t know.

Rachel and Ross, Alex and Piper, Serena and Dan: We're all too familiar with the classic on-again-off-again relationship.

While the common wisdom is to stay far away from our old flames, many real-life off-and-on relationships suggest a different wisdom — that some of our happiest relationships can be with people we've already been with.

My job is flexible, and I can work from anywhere in the world. So what do we know about men who broke up with you in the past and are coming back for more? Now he comes crawling back, begging for another chance. Regardless of what happened when, at the end of the day you deserve to be in a loving relationship with a man you don’t already know is willing to dump you.

So when these men contact me, I do take it seriously. Well, without knowing either you or them as individuals, all I can do is prognosticate, based on what I know about people. A poor communicator is usually going to be a poor communicator.

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We were both young, and rather than try to support one another — as we would do now — we both just felt unhappy.

The first time around, they had a lot in common, but there'd been zero element of romance and, as Lucy told Mic, "I didn't feel loved by him in that sense. "We were both exploring other social options and dating other people and telling each other about it to varying levels of semi-jealousy.

There was no, 'You're so beautiful.' It was not a person I saw as the father of my children." The couple split for a little over a year, a time in which they remained distant friends. I had some experiences that made me feel much more sexually curious than I ever had during that initial relationship." When they did get back together, Lucy credited a "physical spark" that hadn't been there the first time but become evident upon reuniting.

I’m not trying to get her back, just wanted to know if you’ve seen cases of people getting back together after along period of time apart?

What are the odds or indicators that there is even a chance of that happening?