Dating other people while married

02 Dec

When a couple is married but separated, the marital relationship is over for all practical purposes.There is no harm in dating while you are married but separated.I know people who are just separated are iffy potential partners on most occasions.After all, there's a good chance that you get involved with that person and they drop that, "I'm getting back with my ex" bomb on you. And let's face it, there's a great risk in being the first new relationship for the soon-to-be divorcee.Do you really want to be the rebound or the buffer between the old life and the new one? If you ask any layman that is it right to date a married man or woman, the obvious answer would be 'no'.It's an awful, soul-crushing rollercoaster and every time someone sarcastically remarks how easy it is for people to get divorced or how so-and-so "just left their marriage," my head feels like it's about to explode. However when I would reveal to someone in whom I was potentially interested that I was separated, they invariably would shy away.

Even so, the presence of someone new, particularly when paraded in front of the spouse and/or children, can enrage the soon-to-be ex, and also create the suspicion that the relationship began as an “affair” before the separation.I most often run into people dating while separated when they're separated themselves and involved with someone else who's separated too.A more accurate term for 'separated' in most of these cases would really be 'separating,' since few of these people are actually through their divorces or have completely ended their previous relationships.Relationships have gotten really complicated these days.With people marrying less and divorcing more, it's no wonder that the opportunity, and challenge, of dating while separated has become pretty commonplace.The innocent new friend can be deposed by the other side’s lawyer (that is, asked questions that are taken under oath and recorded by a stenographer or even videotaped) and subpoenaed to testify at trial. "By Straight Male Friend Marcus Osborne for Gal Believe what you hear, divorce is hard. Multiply that agony by ten if there are children involved. Related: Dating After Divorce-- Get Your Mojo Back The oddity is that often during a separation the parties agree to be open to seeing other people, even though the door is supposedly open for reconciliation. Do you tell people you're dating that you're just separated?Technically and legally, such relationships are extra marital affairs.But the morality of each person is very different and personal. You can date married men and women provided you are clear about what you want from the relationship.And with the prevalence of cheating, a lot of times one partner has already begun a new relationship and the other partner is now seeking to get 'mine.' Once it's been decided by one, or both, partners to end the relationship, most typically both of partners start seeking a new relationship. If you really care about your new love interest then you'll apply more reason than emotion to your decision about dating while separated.Being separated and not dating is one of the hardest temptations to resist. You'll also make your decision about more than just what you want.