Dating men who are recently divorced

23 Apr

There was one little problem, however, and that was that James already had a wife.Now, before we all get our panties in a bunch, before I get labeled the heinous man-stealer, let me toss out a few more details: James’ wife was on the cusp of no longer being his wife. But to quote Olivia Newton John in her star turn in “Grease,” What I mean to say is that over the course of those 10 hours I couldn’t knock the feeling – despite all those red flags – that James and I might still be a good match. Which brings me to now, two years into our relationship. In this day and age, the briefest jaunt through Facebook reveals significant portions of who this woman is: What she looks like, what parts of herself she likes to advertise.If you’re in a relationship you can simply move on to the next candidate, but if you’re married; it’s just not that simple.Most divorced men immediately start dating a new woman to forget the bad memories of the previous relationship.Fortunately, most divorced singles have as many pros as they do cons.However, when it comes to dating divorced men, some are more ready to date than others.All this information came up over the course of our 10-hour date, and to some extent, the process of James discussing it was akin to someone waving a red flag in my face. The point of course is this: There are some serious pros to dating a divorced guy. The Cons: (I thought we’d get the negatives out of the way first. ” You’ll have to manage her continued pining, her continued pursuit. You will see him see old photos, you will see him cry or scream or fume or mourn. And – lest it bears mention – this is all as much fun as… A guy who’s lived with a woman for a significant period of time has a pretty good sense of what to say and when to say it. If you’re boyfriend’s divorced, you can be 99 percent sure he’s lived with someone else for a while and has a solid understanding of shared space as a result. A divorce is a horrible thing to be sure, but from what I’ve observed, it’s also pretty humbling.

on a Saturday), and we discussed everything from the rudeness inherent to chronic lateness to how we both hate the book KNOW.

-- I would be remiss if I didn't also share some cautions to keep in mind.

In case you're wondering, one divorced dad swept me off my feet (then dropped me over a ledge).

Others may move on to replace a void, or to have companionship.

But the real question is, is dating a recently divorced man safe?