A high schooler dating a middle schooler

25 Aug

And although we already know that junior high school dating was a major drama-fest that certainly distracted from our studies (the number of times I comforted a crying friend in the girls' bathroom during class!

) those of us whose 14-year-old milkshakes didn't bring the boys to the yard may be the better for it, according to a new study out of the University of Georgia.

Finding out that a boy likes you makes you feel pretty and popular boosting your preteen self-esteem.

Finding out 11.4 days later that he is “so over you”destroys your self-esteem, affirming all of your middle-schooler suspicions that you are unattractive, awkward, and that no one really likes you.

They were laughing about another friend who was “dating” a girl. It got me wondering what exactly “dating” means to middle schoolers, and whether it’s a good idea at that age.

As many parents know, adolescents between the ages of 12 and 15 can be the most perplexing and frustrating humans on the planet.

Once a student has sex, it becomes less of an issue in future relationships.

," but don't hold its too-cute title against it—looked at how and when high-school students choose mates and their preferences when searching for a partner.

Before you allow or celebrate your middle-schooler’s boyfriend or girlfriend, consider these pros and cons of middle school romance.Recently I was driving my 14-year-old son and his friends to soccer practice.In the backseat they were chattering away, and in the front seat, I was the proverbial fly on the wall. “Yeah, they have been hooking up for a while.” Dating? I wondered how they could be talking about these things when they couldn’t even drive a car or pay for the movies.Economists Peter Arcidiacono and Marjorie Mc Elroy of Duke and Andrew Beauchamp of Boston College examined an enormous trove of data from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health, more commonly known as The poll asked a broad range of questions about health and behavior—and the data set has become the basis of dozens of famed medical, sociological, and economic studies.(For instance, James Fowler of UC-San Diego recently used data from Add Health be a genetic foundation for an individual's political beliefs.) For their paper, Arcidiacono, Mc Elroy, and Beauchamp focused on the dating and sex lives of high schoolers—a subject much-analyzed by magazine editors and romantic-comedy screenwriters, but less familiar to social scientists.In the Darwinian world of high-school dating, freshman girls and senior boys have the highest chances of successfully partnering up. And they have found that for the most part, they're accurate. Now, however, social scientists have examined them exhaustively and empirically.UGA's research, drawn from following a group of 624 students over a seven-year period from sixth to 12th grade, found that kids who began dating in middle school had worse study skills, were four times more likely to drop out of school and reported twice as much alcohol, tobacco and weed use than their single counterparts.Of the kids studied, 38 percent reported dating at each point of the survey, and 22 percent at "high middle school." Rather amazingly, 100 percent of these kids were dating in sixth grade. That's why it's amazing.)At each point in time, teachers rated the students who were dating as worse academically than those who weren't.If you were anything like me, your massive, octagonal-shaped purple Walmart glasses (no exaggeration), frizzy hair and garish braces didn't exactly bring around any pint-sized gentlemen callers.Nope, middle school boyfriends were a hot commodity, and not for the likes of my awkward ass.